What Are Punishments?
Punishments are about making kids suffer for their mistakes. They're usually intended to make kids feel bad. Punishments are often unrelated to the behavior problem and they may be severe in nature. Punishments often cause children to feel bad about who they are—as opposed to what they did. Children who experience self-worth issues become more likely to misbehave in the future.
Punishments can also be counterproductive because they cause kids to focus on their anger toward their parents, rather than think about what they can do better next time. For example, a child may think, "My mom is mean," instead of, "I made a mistake."
What Are Consequences?
Consequences focus on teaching children how to do better in the future. Healthy consequences help children continue to feel good about themselves while also giving them confidence that they can do better next time. They are created by adults and are directly related to the misbehavior.
Punishments vs. Consequences
Punishments may work in the short-term. Children may comply when they fear you or when they want you to stop inflicting pain or humiliation. But in the long-term, punishments backfire. They lose effectiveness over time because kids aren't learning the skills that they need to make better choices.
Consequences help children see that they made a bad choice but they are capable of doing better in the future. And ultimately, consequences are more effective in improving behavior problems in children.
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